when i was a teenager, i couldn’t wait to turn 16 and start dating. i actually didn’t know there were any other options and had never heard of courtship. i had a few long term relationships, got my heart broken and accumulated suitcase after suitcase of emotional baggage. those emotional scars would shape and transform the person i was.
as i’ve grown older, i’ve purposely learned more about courtship. courtship is also a topic that’s important to me because i think a lot of Christian young people have had their hearts broken through dating. as a mama, i want to protect my kids from that. i’m purposely trying to cultivate a courtship mindset in my littles.
like I said earlier, anyone who’s played the dating game knows that a broken heart or hurt feelings is part of the package. it’s unavoidable, period. you place your heart in the hands of different people in hopes of YOU finding the one. doesn’t sound very wise, does it? you will, undoubtedly, end up feeling rejected, hurt and abused.
marriage is a very big deal and we need to treat it as such. the world today views marriages as disposable. marriage is a lifelong, God honoring covenant. it should not be entered lightly and it shouldn’t be viewed as something one step above dating. marriage is a picture of Christ and His bride. when our marriage falls apart, what picture are we showing?
so, this is my opinion and outlook on courtship. hopefully through this you’ll learn a little more about it, as i have. and hopefully you’ll consider it for your littles as well.
out for now
~kisses
I love this post so much! This is exactly how I want to do things! I have only dated one guy, for four months, and of course it didn't work out. I have always believed that courting is the right way to do things, although it is not very popular in todays society. I went outside of my beliefs because I felt as if it wouldn't work and I would never find anyone to marry. Thank you so much for posting this, it has been an encouragement to me! God bless you! -Hannah
It didn't work out because you didn't want it to. And since I'm just now finding out that you compromised your beliefs, it's obvious that you're guilty of doing the same thing you accused me of, dishonesty. You didn't know whether or not courtship would work with us, because you weren't forthcoming enough to talk to me about it. I had no idea you only believed in courtship.
Enjoyed the post! God bless.
Oh and by the way, I would've courted you because I believe in doing things in whatever way God wants us to, I love you and I KNOW God put us together.