Oh, how God loves to stretch me through this blog. This is a hard post for me to share. I’ve been writing this for days, pouring over it hours at a time. I’ve been back and forth with it. It’s hard and uncomfortable, but God has called me to share.
For weeks I had stewed over this issue. You have no idea how many conversations I had with myself about it. Oh, how I longed for someone to talk to about it. When I knew one of my girlfriends was coming over for coffee, I spent some time praying for God to give me the strength to talk to her about it.
I had spent so much time thinking we were the only ones with this issue, it never occurred to me it might be a common issue in other marriages. I was so thankful God gave me the words to say to her! Once the words left my lips, I suddenly felt braver. She assured me we aren’t the only ones to struggle.
The issue…intimacy.
How can you keep intimacy alive? You have to desire it. You have to want it. You have to be deliberate about it. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to reach the goal. You have to engage your heart fully in the joyful pursuit.
A while back, I read an amazing book. It was Intimacy Ignited by Dr. Joseph and Linda Dillow and Dr. Peter and Lorraine Pintus. I would highly recommend this book to every. single. couple. It is a verse by verse exploration of the Song of Solomon, one of the most loving, romantic and poetic Books found in the Old Testament of the Bible! If God ever gave us an instruction manual for intimacy in marriage, Song of Solomon is it! God wants married couples to have a love so hot, so passionate, so intense that nothing will be able to extinguish it.
4 Ways To Cultivate Intimacy In Your Marriage:
1. Pursue your spouse.
Now, this one is a bit tricky. Men and women are so different. I know, right, Can I get an Amen? Pursuit, to most men, means feeling desired (ladies, read that as “sex”) and affirmed through respect, honor and appreciation. Most women, on the other hand, are more likely to want to be pursued through time, attention and tenderheartedness (guys, read that as “romance”).
- Write your spouse a love letter. Write it in a way that would say “I love you” to them (which means it might not necessary be the kind you would want to receive). Explain to your spouse that you want to work on pursuing passion in your marriage.
- Initiate a sexual encounter in a creative way, especially if your spouse always initiates.
- Read the Song of Solomon out loud together each night before bed.
- Plan a date that revolves around something your spouse enjoys.
2. Have fun.
When was the last time you did something with the purposeful intention of just having fun together? One of my fav things my husband and I have in common is a love for laughter. Actually, his ability to make me laugh was one of the reasons I fell head over heals for him.
- Plan a spontaneous adventure and surprise your spouse with it. This could be a night away (minus kids) or even a little mini-date.
- See a funny movie together, or take in a comedy show.
- Let your hair down and get silly: have a pillow fight or a tickle war.
3. Be positive.
Remember the reasons you fell in love with your spouse? It’s super easy to focus on what annoys us about our spouse, but that is definitely a passion killer. Passion can’t co-exist with negativity. So, develop a habit of being grateful and appreciative. Guard your heart against taking the good parts of your marriage for granted.
- Say thank you. Plain and simple. Thank them for big and little things. Thank them for doing dishes, laundry or fixing your car. I even thank my husband for just loving me (because I am fully aware there are days that can’t be easy).
- Sit down together and make a list of the top five body parts you love (and think are super hot) about your spouse. (guys…your wife is likely in a body-image battle, even if you think she shouldn’t be. this will mean the absolute world to her)
4. Pray Together
I have to admit, when we bow our heads to pray Sunday mornings, I can’t wait to slip my hand into my husbands. There is just something so amazingly intimate about praying together! I totally understand that not everyone is comfortable praying out loud {read this as ME} but it’s so worth it. Just gather up the courage and pray with your man!
- As soon as you lay down in bed, and the lights are out, hold hands and take turns praying.
- If you are too intimidated, start out with baby steps and start praying out loud before meals.
These are just a few ways to cultivate intimacy in marriage. If you and your husband have a special way of creating intimacy in marriage, I’d love to hear it! Please share in the comments below to encourage other wives!
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