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Dehydrating Strawberries

While I have always been comfortable canning foods, dehydrating was a different story.  Up until this point in time, my experience in dehydrating put me in the intermediate category. I could proudly claim dried herbs and venison jerky, but that was as far as my dehydrating experience went.  But a recent Facebook post peaked my interest, claiming dehydrated strawberries tasted just like Twizzlers.  Over the following days I couldn’t stop thinking about and knew I had to try it.

My dehydrator is a smoke-colored Ronco brand, circa 1993, sold in one of those fabulous early 90s infomercials.  The infomercial even included a shout out for that fabulous spray on hair for bald spots.  Basically spray paint for your head.  My father-in-law gave me this dehydrator years ago, and with not really having much experience with it I just packed it away.

My husband and I were at our local grocery store this week, and they had strawberries on sale 2 lbs. for $5.  As soon as I saw them, I knew I would quickly be getting that dehydrator out of the closet and putting it to use!

First I washed the fruit very well.  You could use an all natural produce wash if you want, I just used water for mine.  You don’t need to dry them, since they’ll dry in the dehydrator anyway.  Just realize working with dry fruit is easier and less messier than working with wet fruit.  Cut the stems off of each strawberry and set them aside.  If you have chickens (or a rabbit that lives in your house) they love these strawberry tops!

While some recommend blanching your strawberries before dehydrating them.  Don’t waste your time.  It is totally unnecessary.  Also when you water-blanch you will lose water-soluable vitamins.

Laying the strawberries on their sides and slice them.  When slicing the strawberries, the slices should be as uniform in thickness as possible so that they dry evenly.  The slices should be 1/4″ for thin pieces or 3/8″ for thicker piece.  Lay the slices on the dehydrator trays in a single layer.  The end pieces should be laid with skin side down.  Make sure to place them far enough apart so they don’t touch or overlap.  You want to allow air circulation.  You should leave at least 1/4 inch space around the food pieces.

Some of the strawberry slices may be small and would easily fall through the tray as they shrink.  My dehydrator came with an insert that I can put underneath the fruit to prevent them from falling through.  If yours doesn’t have an insert, I would recommend checking the website of the manufacturer that made your food dehydrator and ordering mesh trays.

Allow the strawberries to dehydrate for 8-18 hours.  My dehydrator has a single heating element in the bottom, which means rotating the trays often is a must.  The strawberries are done when you squeeze them and there is very little “squish” left.  Since this was my first time dehydrating strawberries, it was a bit of trial and error for me.

If your slices aren’t perfectly even in thickness, as mine obviously weren’t, you may find that some strawberries dehydrate faster than others.  Just remove the ones that are finished and keep dehydrating the ones that are not.  Most of my strawberries were done in around 15 hours, but some of the bigger pieces had to go for around 24 hours.  I recommend tasting as you go until you get to your desired doneness.

When they are done, you will have dehydrated strawberries and feel pretty accomplished.  I was shocked how sweet they are.  And yes, they absolutely taste like Twizzlers!

Before You Get Chickens

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In this house, we are animal lovin’ fools. I must add, I was also born with a touch of farmer in me. So for years, having backyard chickens has crossed my mind. Every time I would bring it up, I was met with a resounding no. But this girl, she’s a persistent one! I guess I just wore them down until the answer yes {actually, more like an I guess so}.

I spent months researching different breeds and narrowing down what ones I wanted.  One day, I just took the plunge and ordered them. I just jumped in blindly with both feet. I kinda roll like that sometimes. I think that might be a quality of mine that drives my Mama nuts.

I love having my own chickens!  But the process of deciding to get day-old chicks to building a coop to learning how to care for them has a steep learning curve.  There are so many things I wish I would have known before I dove in head first.  Some lessons are just plain painful {and expensive} to learn by experience. So hopefully I can share some honest, self-learned lessons here that will spare you from those.

Just do it. That’s my first piece of advice. Just take the plunge and get them. But first, check your local ordinances and zoning code regulations. I live in the country, so I didn’t really have any I needed to abide by. I know many forbid roosters and some even have a limit on the number you can have. I would also assume if you live somewhere that requires building permits, you might need one to build your coop.

Decide on which breeds you want.  I have so many different breeds in my flock, I’d guess over 20 different breeds!  I say variety is the spice of life, mix it up if you can! People are so impressed by how beautiful my flock is, and it is easy to remember all of their names when they are all unique.  Plus, my egg basket looks mighty pretty when I carry it in the house every day!

If you’re buying chicks, remember vent sexing is only 90% accurate. So even when you’ve only ordered females, you may get males. I think we’ve all named a Lucy later to realize it’s a Ricky. Chances are you will discover you have a male at some point too. So if you live in a city where roosters aren’t allowed, have a plan ahead of time.  That may very well mean getting rid of a super sweet roo that you’re attached to.

Have what you need before they arrive. If you buy them as chicks, you will need to have a brooder set up. A brooder is a heated container that can have it’s temperature controlled. It’s used to house your chicks, with their feed and water, until they are 6 weeks old and ready to go outside. Although I will tell you, your chicks can’t move outside until the weather is warmer. I waited until the days were in the 60’s or better. So if you purchase during the winter months, get ready to have those babies in your house for a good while. Unless you have a heated coop.  After those 6 weeks are up, you’ll need to have their coop ready outside.

Coops don’t need to be fancy.  In fact, our first coop was an old camper my husband got for free.  I spent some time tearing out what I needed to and got it all ready for them.  It worked out perfectly!  It was already insulated, had functioning windows, had lots of cupboard space (to hold feed, supplies, etc.) and even had a little door on the side as their access to their run.

The average chicken has a lifespan of around 10 years. On average, chickens lay productively for the first five years or so, then gradually taper off and may only lay once a year in their old age. That means within a relatively short period of time, you’ll have chickens that aren’t laying at all, but continuing to eat and poop to their heart’s content. Chickens can live up to an average of 10 years (though some may make it to 20 years!), depending on the breed and environment.  So be thinking of what you will do with your chickens once they are elderly.  I plan to just keep mine as they are now, in the coop with all their chicken friends.

Chickens have to be shut up at night or they will get killed.   For the first year, I never allowed my girls to free range outside the coop.  I was too afraid of what might happen to them.  One day, I started letting the chickens out to free-range during the day.  And they loved it!  Once dusk sets in, they go back to the coop and get settled into bed.  Chickens are basically the snack food of the predator world. Think foxes, raccoons and even hawks like to have a little evening chicken snack. Be sure to lock them in a coop each night.

Some chickens are just mean. In fact, I have two mean witches in my coop right now. And if they don’t soon shape up, I have their walking papers ready. They are bullies and just love to pick on whoever is bottom of the pecking order.

But not all roosters are mean.  I have had some super sweet roosters.  And I mean like pick-them-up-and-carry-them-around sweet.  I’ve also had some doozys.  In fact, I had two roosters that, while nice to me, weren’t so nice to my ladies.  They were terrorizing one hen in particular to the point that she wouldn’t leave the nest.  Those two roosters had to be re-homed.

Oh yes, let’s talk about the pecking order. Even when they are chicks, you will see them chest bumping and stretching their necks out at each other. As they grow older, this “fighting” will continue. They are establishing a pecking order, so don’t freak out. Every coop has one and it’s just natural for them to establish one.

Your pullets (female chickens under one year) will start laying when they’re between four and six months old. Don’t be concerned if the first eggs will be small, they’ll get larger with time. And let me tell you, those first non-egg months drag on. Every morning I would trot to the coop, hopeful to see my first egg. Nothing. You see, I had this perfect little laying box set up for them. And that’s where I expected them to lay. Then one night I was getting a little heat light set up for them. I bent down to plug it in and could not believe my eyes. There was a pile of eggs like you would never believe…13 of them! They had been laying for days, and I missed it. So also realize, they will lay where ever THEY want to, not where you want them to.

Hens will take a break from laying eggs in the winter months. Generally this is when they lose old feathers and grow new ones.  And when they do this (called molting) they will look like the saddest bunch of girls around.  The first hen I had molt, I thought she was dying.  So prepare yourself for that also.

Hens need about 14 hours of daylight to lay eggs consistently. Although I have to say, my girls never stopped laying completely. They may have slowed down a bit, especially on the extremely cold days. But every single day this winter I got at least one egg.

Sometimes chickens get sick, and you will bring them inside.  We’ve experienced this from time to time.  The issue is once a chicken is sick, the other chickens will see them as weak.  They will pick on them and peck them.  The end result isn’t pretty.  I don’t have a garage, so when mine get sick they always make their way inside.  And nothing is more shocking than said chicken being a rooster, and hearing it crow inside your house the next morning.

Local veterinarians probably won’t be able to help you either, as very few of them are trained to understand poultry diseases. You will have to either read up on your own or find other more experienced chicken keepers who can advice you. What I would suggest is joining a group, like Backyard Chickens. There are also quite a few Facebook group specifically for chicken owners. You have no idea how many questions I ask them. Seriously y’all, I bet they are sick to death of me. BUT that is the perfect way to find out what is going on with your sick chicken.

Chickens do get sick and die. Good night, do I ever know this. We’ve lost a few from our flock in less than a year. I actually lost my very favorite super-sweet roo during his first winter.  He died in my house, laying beside me on the floor, surrounded by my family.  And I cried, bucketloads.

Different breeds lay different colored eggs.  When I was choosing which breeds I wanted, I knew I wanted my egg basket to look pretty.  But in my mind, eggs came in two different colors…white and brown.  Because, I mean, that’s all we really see in the stores.  Throughout the years as my flock grew, so did my egg colors.  I now have nearly every shade of green and brown you can find, some are even speckled.  I have the prettiest light blue.  I also have white, cream and one sweet girl that lays almost a pink color.  If you want your egg basket to look pretty do, do your research on what color eggs each specific breed lays.

Chickens can deal with cold weather far better than hot weather. The body temperature of a chicken typically hovers around 102 degrees. Because they are wearing a down coat all year round, they will need access to shade and cool water at all times.

Chicken math is a real thing. You start out with 8 cute little chicks. Surely that’s enough, right? They grow up, move to the coup and start laying.  And then Rural King moves into your area, and sells chicks year round.  And, I mean, you HAVE to go in there to get supplies. Hearing those sweet little chirps coming from the back of the store. There is no possible way to walk past them without looking, unless you’re the scrooge and don’t have a heart! You see those little balls of fluff and instantly, you must add to your flock. At that point, it’s not even a question. Chicken math has already set in, and there isn’t any going back. Before you know it you have 16 in the coop, 4 in the smaller coop and you’re getting ready to place your Spring chicken order. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything.

Chicken math may also branch out into other birds. Such as pigeons, as we found out a few years ago. We had a pigeon named Tim living in our coop for a little over a year. Fairly sure he thought he was a chicken, he would get right in there and fight for food with those big girls. He spent some time free-ranging with the chickens, he would take a big fly around the neighborhood and then come back to the coop at dusk and settle into his bed for the night.  Once he was strong and brave enough, he just kept on flying and didn’t return.  I’d be lying if I said it didn’t break my heart a bit.

There will always be lots of poop. You just have to get use to it and not get skeeved out. One day I tended the chicks before rushing out the door to meet a friend for coffee. In all my rushing, I didn’t realize I somehow had poop on my jeans. Seriously, get ready for chicken poop for days. I’m still baffled at how one little bird can poop so much. Goodness.

Keep water and food bowls clean and free from funny-looking growth {and poop}. You have to clean their water container daily. And as soon as you clean it, they will scratch around and throw nonsense back in it. And usually some jokester will somehow poop in it as well.  I even had some wild girl lay an egg in the water last week.  I’m nearly convinced they do this as a way to drive me insane. But seriously, keep everything clean in the brooder and the coop.

Chickens are nosy.  They will watch everything that happens in the yard.  And they will inspect everything within their reach.  If it’s in their coop, they will peck at it and inspect it. This will prompt all other birds to follow suit.  I’ve had girls pull insulation out of the walls and destroy a paper plate in minutes.  Keep this in mind when building your coop.  Make sure anything dangerous to them is well out of their reach.

And last but not least, you will talk to your chickens. You will name them and talk to them like they are human. You will have your morning coffee with them. Or wait, that might just be me. You will take selfies with them and Instagram them. You will notice their little personalities, and occasionally try to talk to non-chicken people about them. Those people have no desire to hear your chicken stores and will think you are crazy. These chickens will come running when they hear your voice, and your heart will flutter. They love me, they really love me ♡

When Attraction Leaves

I remember that first time I saw Joe at a mutual friends house.  His t-shirt and bright eyes, the way he made me laugh with ease, his confidence, it sucked me in.  My attraction to this “bad boy” shocked me, this dark mysterious guy who ignored the world and rocked multiple tattoos.  I thought to myself that it would be hilarious if I were so immediately attracted to him because he was supposed to be my husband.  Actually, that was my second though.  My first thought was that my Mama would never approve of this tattooed wild boy.

Three months later we were married, with vows breathed in the little country church I was born into.

We both entered marriage in love with being in love.  I adored the romance, comfort and support a spouse offered.  I loved waking up beside him each morning and laying down beside him each night.  I loved that he was my best friend and knew me better than anyone.  We had our own unwritten language and could share a look or a word that no one else would understand but WE knew what it meant.  I loved how he could make me laugh more than anyone else.

Falling in love is the most blissful feeling.  With each new discovery in your relationship, you feel yourself falling more and more in love.  You just know, in your heart of hearts, that you’ve found the right person to spend the rest of your life with.  Your days are filled with dreams of what you’ll name your babies and sitting on the porch swing holding hands while watching your grand-kids play in the yard.  You are certain these feelings will last forever.  But they didn’t.

One morning you wake up, look at your spouse and don’t even recognize them anymore.  She has gained weight since having babies.  He’s going bald.  She has wrinkles.  And when did he start growing so much hair in his ears?  You begin to wonder if you even married the right person.  The person you are married to isn’t the same person you fell in love with.  You begin to doubt your choice.  You look at other couples around you, so happily in love, and you wonder why you don’t have that.  You watch romantic movies and long for what they have.  You feel life isn’t fair, at least yours isn’t.  Before long, you can feel your heart slowly drifting away from your spouse.  You crave the fireworks attraction you used to have.

You were so certain those first feelings would last forever.  But they didn’t.  You feel your happily ever after wearing off.

How can God expect you to stay married to someone you aren’t attracted to anymore?

Aging and our bodies changing is a part of life.  I know very few people who look the same in their 40s as they did in their 20s.  As we age our metabolism slows down.  People naturally gain weight, and it becomes much harder to keep it off.  As we age we are simply not as attractive as we were in our early twenties.  We get wrinkles.  We get moles.  We get stretch marks.  Skin sags, even if you’re in great shape.  We get cellulite.  Our bodies change as we experience joy, pain, life, death, victory, heartache and time.  These are all facts.  To look the same now as I did 22 years ago would require a vast amount of work.  And in the end, I still wouldn’t look the same.

With that being said, here are a few things to consider.

We are to delight in each other

Part of loving your man is being as attractive as you can be.  After all, you’re the only woman he’s allowed to look at.  I try to always have a hair style and hair color I know my husband likes.  I also try to wear outfits that I’ve heard him say he liked.  For example, I know he prefers that I wear a t-shirt and jeans.  Praise Jesus he doesn’t prefer dresses!  And when we go anywhere together, I always try to look my best, by doing my hair and makeup, so that he can be proud to have me on his arm.

Regardless of your size, you are still beautiful!  I know how easy it is to fall into the trap of the worlds beauty standards, and think since you’re not a size 2 then what is the use.  Let me encourage you to fight the frump y’all.  Get dressed in your best.  Choose clothing that flatters your body.  So much of being sexy is about attitude, not just what we look like!  Exuding confidence is sexy!  If you’re passionate with your husband, and you present yourself well, you’re choosing to love him.

But remember, the same grace you want your husband to offer you for your appearance is also what you should offer him for his.  And just maybe him seeing how much effort you’ve put into your appearance will spark a desire in him to do the same.

A side-note to the men…you are instructed in the Bible to always delight in your wife, not only when you find her appearance desirable.  Proverbs 5:19 says Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight.  This means even if gravity has taken a toll.

You don’t need the perfect body to have amazing sex

Sex as part of marriage is important to God.  Sex is one of the ways a man and a woman are bound together by God in a covenant relationship for life.  Sex is supposed to bring us closer together in different ways – spiritually, physically, emotionally.  Physical is only one aspect.  And when we put so much emphasis on needing the perfect body in order to make love we’ve lost the point. We’ve cheapened sex.

Let’s take a closer look at 1 Corinthians 7:3-5…

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

I think “do not deprive” is an important part of these verses, and we have to look further into what that translates to.  The biblical definition of deprive is to take away; to put an end; to destroy.  This implies that there should be a healthy level of sexual activity, that this is a legitimate need and depriving our spouse of it could destroy them and in essence our marriage.  This isn’t something that is optional in marriage.  And it isn’t something that should be minimized or used as a weapon, either.

Be cautious of your spouses confidence

Robert Frost said Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.  In our hearts, we crave that our spouses would desire us and be attracted to us.  If you tell your spouse you aren’t attracted to them, that is absolutely devastating and so hard to recover from.  We’re supposed to delight in our spouses, not tear them down.

If your wife has gained weight since having babies, ask her to walk with you in the evenings.  If your husband has hair growing in his ears or out of control eyebrows, ask him if you could trim them.  Try to be part of the solution, not part of the problem.

Pursue intimacy

I have a feeling if you truly pursued intimacy with your spouse, that the attraction would return.  If you aren’t sure where to start, read my post 16 Ways To Make Your Marriage Sizzle.  To keep intimacy alive you have to desire it.  You have to want it.  You have to be deliberate about it.  You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to reach the goal.  You have to engage your heart fully in the joyful pursuit.

If you are experiencing this issue, here is my challenge to you.  Remember why you feel in love with your spouse to begin with.  Pray to have eyes that crave them.  Pray for sexual intimacy with them and then intentionally pursue them.  Explore sex and the fullness of it.

And as for the question if God expects you to stay in this marriage, I think another blog post I wrote will help answer that.  It’s called Is Your Marriage Worth Saving.  Once you’ve read it, take some time to just pour your heart out to God.  As your love story is written by the ultimate Author of love, you might just be surprised at the romance you find.